A Number of obvious answers came to mind – all related to taking action and 'just get going' but the best answer I settled on was:
 

"Set yourself achievable goals"
 

There is no point in starting with a target of $10,000 a month, it just won't happen quick enough for you and you'll get disillusioned. Start with $5 a day, then $10 a day then move up to $20 a day. These targets can easily be achieved and they will spur you on.
 

One of the targets I recommend is trying to earn $100 a day earlier each month. Several of my team have had great success with this. People who were earning $100 on the 25th of the month a few months back are now getting there by the 6th or 7th.

 
Another way you can make targets achievable is to turn them into goals from general dreams. Change, I want to own a $1,000,000 home into I want to earn an extra $200 each day to pay the mortgage/rent on a $1 million home.
 

Believe me $200 is much more achievable than $1,000,000
It's only 4 or 5 Clickbank sales a day, or the commissions on a small team of your affiliates in 12SecondCommute.

Set yourself achievable goals!

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“I know that I’m better than most of those who surround me, although I am not quite sure of the points of difference between myself and them, still I know that I’m much better than them. Other people seem to be weak, vulnerable and helpless. A large amount of them fail to succeed, the preponderance of them are depressed and the rest don’t know where life will take them.

I’m not similar to these people and that’s why I must be on the top, that is why I should be in the center of attention and that’s why I should outperform them”

Yes, it’s all about ‘me’ Never about ‘you’ or ‘them’, except as lesser beings.

In a few moments you will discover how to deal with a narcissist.

Firstly, the best practice to deal with a narcissist is to know your own narcissistic tendencies. When your own feelings of self-worth are reliant on what others think or feel about you, you make yourself vulnerable to any narcissist’s trap.

Secondly, try to establish a protected haven, a place to be away from the abuse, and keep control of your own personality and your own life. Do you have a friend living at ample distance that you can retreat to revitalize. Or possibly you can develop a regular work, or hobby, reason to put a few distance between the two of you regularly.

Thirdly, get as far away from them as you can. Hardcore narcissists are occasionally intolerable to deal with. Occasionally you just need walk away, the possibility for harm is so great

Fourthly, if you can’t walk away for some reason, make sure you take advantage of the resources and support that is obtainable to help shield your self esteem and self worth, and to train you how to communicate and act towards your narcissistic partner in a way that gets the best result FOR YOU without bringing out the worst features of a narcissistic personality disorder,

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One of the most essential resources any marketer, online or offline, needs to have is an email autoresponder to automate the process of keeping in email contact with prospects and / or customers.

All skilled marketers and business owners will tell you that their email list (database) is one of the main assets their business owns, simply because it is by keeping in contact through their autoresponders, developing a trusting relationship over time, and selling to their list time and time again that the profitability of their businesses has exploded.

For all of that, when you set off to buy autoresponders, you still have to think about how much it will cost you each month and insure you will get good value for money.

The next matter that comes up is how effortless is the autoresponder to make use of, and how to use an autoresponder – is it easy to learn.

Therefore you want to be looking at both ease of use and what training is obtainable in how to make use of an autoresponder.

One of the things that muddies the water as you deliberate your options is the huge amount of opinion out in the market place. Opinion that's often inaccurate and heavily influenced by the smart marketing and advertising and the brand name recognition of the 'big boy's' like Aweber and GetResponse. The difficulty with free opinion is it's regularly about as much use as you paid for it – nothing.

Let me drop a couple of facts on you, to guide you as you move to make a decision:

1) I have used both the 'big boys' and I have used the lesser well known 12SecondCommute autoresponders.

2) All three have high delivery rates – your emails do get through.

3) While the 12SecondCommute autoresponders are by far the easiest to use, you can learn to use the others – it just takes a bit longer.

4) For a list with 500 subscribers, Aweber and GetResponse charge about $18 a month.

5) At 12SecondCommute a list of 1000 subscribers is only $9 a month

6) Aweber and GetResponse provide no other services, 12SecondCommute offers 7 other services – capture page builders, contact manager, ad and url tracking, hosted blog, conference centers, and the list goes on.

 
So that is a quick overview to help you buy autoresponders and to point out the best place to learn how to use an autoresponder and you will find further valuable information by clicking on any of the two links in this paragraph.

AllanJames
(the StartBusinessMentor)
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When talking about affiliate programs, it helps to compare them to
what happens in the traditional world of brick and mortar
companies.  In that familiar world, many large manufacturing
companies and large product sellers use a network of salespeople
and distributors to bring their products to all corners of the
world.

For instance, a beverage manufacturer, instead of selling directly
to their customers, sells their products through a series of
distributors and salespeople.  In turn, the members of this
distribution and sales network enjoy a very good living by
promoting the products made by others.

In essence, the affiliate programs found on the internet are
distribution and sales efforts taken to the online world.  The
individual web sites take the place of the distributor and sales
network, and these individuals are paid by the seller of the
product when a sale is made.

It is easy to see why this arrangement is so popular, from the
point of view of both the merchant and the owner of the web site.
The merchant benefits from increased sales.  At the same time, he
or she does not have to pay for additional advertising, and the
affiliate is only paid when a sale is made.

The web site owner benefits as well, since every sale he or she
refers to the merchant means money in his or her pocket.  The web
site is up and running anyway, the visitors are already there.  The
only thing that has been added is the affiliate link, and that
costs nothing to set up and is very easy to do.

One word about the affiliate link.  The affiliate link is what
makes this magic happen.  It is how the merchant knows where their
customers are coming from.  When a customer visits the web site
owner's site, he or she will see an affiliate link to the
merchant's site. When the visitor clicks this link, the click
through is logged by the merchant, and when a sale is made that is
logged as well.

The owner of the referring web site is then
entitled to a percentage of the sale.  In most cases, this
percentage will be at least 20%, but in some cases it can be as
much as 50% or even more of each sale.  With these kinds of
percentages, it is easy to see why this type of marketing is such a
great way to make money online.

Affiliate programs are very popular, and one reason is that unlike
other types of internet businesses there is no need to stock
products, buy products or even have products.  That is because
instead of selling your own product, you are acting as a
salesperson or a distributor for the products of others.

This can make a huge difference to your profit margins and your
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Every day I hear from people who are struggling to make money online. They bought the programs and listened to the advice but are still coming up short.

These are good people, real people, who have been beaten down by the hyped-up websites that promise them near-instant riches if they will only “join now”.

They are discouraged and are left to wonder if all online marketers simply lie to make money and don’t care at all about their customers.

You might know someone who feels this way, or might feel this way yourself. If so, this message is for you.

I’m here to tell you that you can succeed online no matter what your current circumstances say to you or how badly others have treated you!

How can I say that when so many people are working hard and still not making any money online? When so many are being ripped off and now have nothing to work with and little hope of making it?

Because I see it happening every day.

I see people who think they are too old, too broke, too sick or too tired and beat up to begin the transformation from hype to hope.

I see them move from being confused and afraid they will “miss it” to making real progress – not a one time fluke but progress they can repeat over and over again.

They learn. They work. They overcome. And you can overcome too!

Let me share with you what I believe.

I believe there has never been a greater opportunity to make money online than exists today. I should know; I’ve been making a full time living working online for over 10 years.

In that time I have seen many scams come and go. Seen more “business opportunities” than I can count go through their mega-launches, destined (or so the sales letters said) to be the next big thing. Seen countless people lose money to these lies.

But I’ve seen miracles too, and I want to share with you what those turnaround stories (including my own turnaround story) have taught me.

But first let me share with you why I know you can succeed online.

Here are only a few of the reasons I believe that NOW can be your best time ever.

• More people are online than ever before, which means a bigger market for you.

• And there are more products you can promote – truly good and proven products – than ever before as well.
• There are more ways to promote than ever before. And not all of them cost an arm and a leg.
• Today anyone can have a website almost instantly by using a blog. When I started out it was HTML in NotePad. Not a pretty thing.
• There is more good coaching and mentoring now than ever before.

These are just a few of the many reasons I believe you can succeed online. But let me share my #1 reason with you.
You can succeed online because humans were created to be overcomers!

I fully believe that NOW is your time. That THIS is your year to shine!

Is it hard to work online? Sure, it takes work and learning new skills, some time and a little money.

But that will not stop you!

Are there thieves online? You bet! Too many websites promise the moon only to deliver disappointment and heartache. Far too many take your money and never even answer your email or provide any real help or support.

But we won’t let that stop us!

I want you to join me today in setting a new course.

Today is the day we forgive.

Today is the day we forget the wrongs of the past and write a new story.

Today is the day we make a list of what is right with us and capitalize on our strengths and not our weaknesses.

Today is YOUR day!

I know that it can be hard to hold your head up high and declare today as your day of victory. I know the challenges you face because I have been there too.

I have walked in your shoes and am here to tell you that there is victory for those who never surrender!

You might be tempted to think you are too old or too sick or too broke or too tired to succeed online. I thought those things too.

I was so sick there were entire days I could not get out of bed. But I kept trying.

I was so broke that people from my church brought presents to my house so my kids could have Christmas.

I was so discouraged that I honestly felt it was over for me – that I had my chance and it didn’t work out.

I remember one night literally saying to myself “at least you had it good for a while” and thinking it was time to accept the “reality” of forever being broke and sick and depressed.

MY FRIEND – THAT WAS A LIE! I kept on fighting and today I am free from debt, free from sickness and we are doing very well indeed.

I won’t give specifics or show you my Clickbank screenshot like the hype boys do but let’s just say that we are not living in a rent house anymore. 

Based on my own experience, and based on literally thousands of members I have counseled I want to tell you five truths that you might not feel are true right now.

>>> YOU ARE NOT TOO OLD

I want you to meet Claudette. At 83 she truly is a shining swan of a person. Whenever I speak with her I am lifted by her love of life and her undeniable spirit. Sure, working online is a challenge for someone of her age but you can bet your last nickel that fact won’t defeat her!

Claudette is a realist. She knows that she will never master the computer the way a 23 year old would so she does what she can. Instead of trying to build a website from scratch and learning HTML she focuses on blogs, knowing that if you can type you can have a blog. And she can type after all! So she does what she can.

How about Ivan? Ivan is another octogenarian. Ivan was 85 last time we spoke and going as strong as ever. You see, Ivan works in the health and wellness field and is a living testimonial for his anti-aging products.

What do Ivan and Claudette tell me?

You are not too old to succeed online!

>>> YOU ARE NOT TOO SICK

How I wish you could meet Mindy.  She has cancer and so is focusing on marketing passive income products so that her family has something to count on when she is gone.

Incredible.

In my own life there were times when a good day meant I could work 2 hours before basically collapsing and needing to sleep 20 hours. Was it hard? You bet. But I worked those 2 hours and never gave up. It was that burning desire, and God’s blessing, that took me from being a member of the Directory of Ezines to owning the company less than 18 months later.

Believe me, you are not too sick to succeed online. Do what you can when you can and rest when you must.

>>> YOU ARE NOT TOO BROKE

When I bought my DOE membership it was hard to come up with the fee. To say it was a sacrifice would be grossly understating the truth. My wonderful wife thought I had lost my mind. How was this membership going to help us?

I had so few resources that all I could afford was article marketing since there was no fee to send articles to ezines. And send them I did.

On days I was well enough to work I would write articles. And write articles. And write articles. Then I would send them, hoping and praying they would be read.

They were read and soon readers became visitors and visitors became customers.

It was hard but it worked.

Little did I know that less than 18 months later my wife and I would buy the company, enabling the founder to retire and achieve her dream.

Today there is social media (oh how I wish I had Twitter and Facebook in 1999!) and even more no-cost ways to promote.

Believe me when I tell you – you are not too broke to succeed online.

>>> YOU ARE NOT TOO TIRED

I know you are tired. Tired of the lies. Tired of the hype. Tired of trying things that don’t work. But you are not too tired!

For you the time may have come to stop working so hard on things that don’t work and focus on things that are proven to work.

I get tired too. Not everything I try works the first time either. But when results do come they build me up – giving me the strength and encouragement to keep going.

If you are tired today take time to rest. Pushing on and spending countless hours at your keyboard (especially if they are late night hours) will not be productive.

When you are rested and ready make a list of the top five things you want to accomplish today and start on item #1, not stopping or even thinking of anything else until it is finished.

Let focus and passions become your allies and you will banish tiredness from your vocabulary.

Rest when you must and work with passion and focus.

>>> YOUR CHANCE HAS NOT PASSED YOU BY

I know this much to be true – the opportunity online is just starting. You have not missed it. And you have not missed the “good days” either when things were “easy”.

You have not missed it.

Things were never easier than now. There have never been more tools at your disposal than now. There has never been a bigger market than now.

You have not missed it.

As the song says, “these are the good old days” whether we want them to be or not. Today is the day we will look back on and reminisce. The only real question now is whether we will remember today fondly or feel that we wasted yet another opportunity.

Here is my viewpoint on where you stand right now.

• You are not finished yet.
• You have a great story to write.
• You have a great future to build.

Never surrender your dream. Never let go of your goal. Never quit.

Winston Churchill had it right when he said that his people should “never surrender”. I love his quote about surrender and his equally famous quote “the nose of the bulldog has been slanted backwards so it can breathe without letting go”.

Be that bulldog. Breathe and have your life but never ever let go. Never surrender.

Let me leave you with these words by Henry David Thoreau.

“I have learned, that if one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours. “

Success is not made up of the grand gesture – the bold move or big product launch or the perfect ad that hits the target. Those things are fun when they happen but they are not the stuff of life or the building blocks of success.

Success is made up of doing the little things every day. Success comes from doing what you can today, knowing that doors will open as you need them.

Success comes from being willing to learn what you need to learn and being willing to do what you need to do.

Success comes from following a proven path, knowing in your heart that if good things can happen for the Charlie Page’s of the world there is no reason they can not or will not happen for you too.

Go out today – right now – and move confidently in the direction of your dream. Then get up tomorrow and do it again. Soon you will find that you are succeeding on YOUR terms.

And that is a beautiful thing indeed!

Posted by Charlie on Wednesday, January 13, 2010 at 5:43 pm

I fully concur with Charlies post! You CAN do it. If you are willing to do the small things consistently, and persist – until it is done!.

The freedom and success I've achieved has not been through some innate abilities (some of you know my story, poorly educated, low self esteem etc), or through luck. It was through taking action (the small steps), failing, trying again, finding a mentor, committing and persisting over time.

As Winston Churchill said, in my favourite quote, " Never Give up! "

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Need to buy auto responders and other webmaster tools? 12SecondCommute has the best tools suite on the net, and at the lowest prices.

There are two main options you could select from when you make your mind up to get into internet marketing.

First, you may choose to publicize affiliate products. In this case, you won’t require to have a detailed plan for launching and pre-launching a product. You simply sign up in these programs and start promoting the products to bring in commissions. Since most online marketers have their web sites where they advertise affiliate products or their very own products, it can be of greater advantage to use auto responders. This will enable you to send automated emails to people who have signed up in your opt-in form. You won’t have to manually send updates and information to each of your subscribers.

Second, you can come up with a unique product that you may possibly sell on the net. When you have a product in mind, you then make your marketing plan. This plan ultimately includes details on how you would launch and advertise your products online. Launching your own product on the net calls for a lot of preparation but this can in fact be a rewarding accomplishment. Countless experts actually push internet marketers to have their own products to advertise and sell on the net and not rely exclusively on existing products being sold.

When you buy auto responders this technology will take care of it. Having an opt-in mailing list must actually be the principal feature your web page must have. You would need a form installed on your site’s pages in order to capture email addresses of people who will be dropping by your turf. Building your list is vitally important in growing traffic to your site. You can buy auto responders from the long list of service providers to pick from in the market. They may be cheap but you can get a fair deal if you just choose the best one. One huge advantage of having these automated emails is that, you can further foster a good relationship with your prospective clients.

By keeping in constant contact with them, you could increase their trust in you. Trust can be very necessary in any relationship especially in business. Customers would often prefer to buy products from the people they trust. So, make sure that you take care of this side of your business relationship. The value of auto responders is usually recognized by online marketers who have been using this for the past years. These auto responders can supply you unlimited follow-ups to your future clients. However, you just don’t do mere follow-ups but you do this in a creative manner. There are auto responders that are able to produce quality content for your newsletters.

Make sure that you give up quality information to your subscribers and not just pure sales pitches. If you do not have an email responder yet, maybe it’s high time you gave thought to where you will buy auto responders to keep in touch with your prospective customers. Some auto responders are designed to even multiply the number of visitor sign ups. Thus, you will get other worthwhile services aside from the basic ones. An auto responder is a must for every online marketer with a web site. If you don’t have this in your system, then you could be missing out lots of opportunities to increase traffic and sales for your business.

Set-up an email responder now and you won’tregret having this tool on your pages, and as an essential tool in you online marketing toolkit. As you prepare to buy auto responders you should consider the lesser known, but highly regarded offering as part of the 12SecondCommute package, which adds valuable extras such as capture page builders and ad trackers etc while still keeping overall costs at or below the competitions auto responder only offerings. You can take up a 30 day free trial – no credit card or other payment details required – at:

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Now, he has a website for his PI and another home business, so he puts a
12SC banner on it.

And goes on an extended holiday overseas.

Next thing I see is he has a bunch of hits of visitors to 12SC from people
clicking on his banner.

But here's where it gets exciting. While he's enjoying the delights of
his holiday with his lovely wife, suddenly I see his first free trial
member recorded.

And that's not all! A few days later he's made his first sale!

While on holiday. How easy is that?

While I work my little butt off (well four – five hours a day anyway). I'm
thinking of getting him to do the next training so I can learn how to do
this business

Nice guy. Nice story.

It could be your story too.
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Email: start.business.mentor@gmail.com

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Frequently the unthinking, or uninformed, will at once come back with a recommendation for the two most well known services, Aweber and GetResponse, but are these really the best place to buy auto responders or are these responses just the result of sharp marketing and the resulting brand recognition that results from it?

One of the justifications people give for recommending ‘the big two’ is their good delivery rates, and at first glance this seems sound enough. After-all who wants to take the gamble that a percentage of their carefully crafted email series may not get delivered.

But is this factor formidable enough to make the decision on where to buy auto responders as a choice between only these too?

I want to advocate that it is not.

Why?

Because surveys have shown that the difference in deliverability between ‘the big two’ and a number of other top class, but comparatively unknown auto responder service providers is as low as 0.01%.

Only one email not arriving in one thousand sent!!

So… if you put the greatly overrated deliverability factor aside, you are left with two other, much more important factors to consider.

Price and easy of use. Let’s for a moment look at each of these:

Price:

Aweber – 500 subscribers $19 a month 5000 subscribers $45 a month
GetResponse: about the same
A lesser known provider: ie
ISOR – 500 subscribers $9.95 a month 50000 subscribers $39 a month, AND you get another seven service all marketer must have to succeed thrown in at no extra charge (ad and URL tracking, capture page builders, rotators, hosted blog, live conference room, and the list goes on and on)

Ease of use:

With both ‘the big two’ all the bells and whistles, used by fewer than 1 in a hundred people, come at the cost of increased complexity and a vastly longer learning curve, when what the great majority of us need is exceptional basic capabilities and great reporting.

Want an case of complexity going over board, even for an experienced user like me?

Try altering any of your optin forms on Aweber!

Is this why both of them offer a restricted free trial, but only for a short duration, and only after you’ve had to provide your credit card details?

Conclusion:

It pays not to blinded by ‘common knowledge’ and proficient marketing when considering where to buy auto responders, particularly when there is a very accomplished provider, ISOR, who offers a 30 day trial of their responder, and all the other seven associated service without you even having to pull your credit card out. In the unlikely event that you decide their online tools suite is not for you, you simply cancel or, should you wish, ISOR will cancel your account automatically after 30 days and erase all your details from their database, and you will NEVER hear from them again.

What could be fairer, or easier, than that?

I propose you use the link just above to go check these services out, and you can pick up a free copy of the StartBusinessMentor’s acclaimed ‘Make Your First Dollar Online’ Guide (a $47 value) on the way there as my way of saying thanks for looking.

Sincerely
AllanJames
(the StartBusinessMentor)